On the Couch with CA

This is dedicated to everyone who has been in a relationship and have, or tried to move on after a split from someone they use to love. Or perhaps you are this person that finds the need to make contact with an ex. At first, I was a bit hesitant to put this out in the public space, but then realised, and with some coaxing from a few friends, I am not alone in this situation. Just the other day, I was telling my daughter that although I started very late (i.e. 21/23 years old) in having a "BF" (boyfriend) in comparison to the norm nowadays, I have more than had my fair share of the opposite gender. Even though no names have been mentioned to protect the identity of the receiver of this note, however, if by any chance you do recognise it, then please accept it for what it is. I am sure there is something you can learn from this too. "Dear Ex Boyfriend I have unblocked you for the next 48 hours (FB allowance) so that I can explain my "Lecture" to you. Pe...

On the Couch with CA: The Truth Lies in the Ash

16 June 2016, forty years after the youth took up the cudgels to bring down apartheid, I found myself amongst a community in Bonteheuwel, celebrating the life of a fallen hero, Ashley Kriel.  The screening of "Action Kommadant" a documentary film by Nadine Cloete, brought back many memories of that time, of which I feel the urgency to record the role I played during that time, a role which I felt was pretty much one that was in the background, until my dear friend and mentor, Marie-Louise Samuels said to me that I was never just in the background.   It made me think about the importance of my role at the time, and perhaps, for lack of wanting to be in the spotlight, I never paid much attention to it, contrary to what some people think.  Just because I am vocal does not mean I want to be seen.   I entered the Catholic Youth Movement (known later as the Archdiocesan Youth Movement "AYM" ) when I was age 13 and a youth member at Holy Cross Church...