On the Couch with CA

The road to Democracy ends here. South Africa stands at the brink of a new dawn on 7 May 2014, twenty years after our first democratic election, and it will not be as exciting as that day on 27 April  in 1994, if at all it will be a sad day for many of us.  Many who stood firm in  their belief that the Party we held dear to our hearts will take this country forward in a way that would benefit all its people, no matter what party they voted for.  For that is what democracy is about,  "A Government of the People, For the People, By the People" .    Democracy is not a slogan to use loosely, because it sounds good, it is a powerful word which should be respected by all, whether you are a leader or someone aspiring to be one.    I joined a hike organised by Keep on Moving www.facebook.com/groups/210709115769040 in collaboration with various other hiking groups from Cape Town with its main purpose of...

Update on "A Million Pieces of Blame"   After my last blog I was not sure how I was going to top the "Dear Daughter" letter as it had shot my viewership ratings up within minutes.  I knew that I was not alone in the single-parent boat having to deal with a difficult child/teenager/adolescent but I did not expect to hear that co-parenting households were experiencing the same problems.    The update on the letter to my daughter clearly made some impact on her and the very next day she enrolled for an interior design course via correspondence all on her own.  The books have arrived and she is hopefully on the road to her future.    May it be as colourful and exciting as she would like it to be, and may the potholes she comes across be filled with gold.   Connecting the Dots   On a recent coffee break with a "blast from the past" , and I mean all of a life-time from childhood acquaintance, not someone I dated, or ...

The following letter is dedicated to all the mothers and fathers who find themselves in my shoes. "Dear Daughter Contrary to what you believe, that I am controlling you, the reality is that I have no control over you. You have constantly blamed me for all your downfalls and reminders that you did not ask to be here.  Well guess what?  Neither did I ask to be here, but as a single parent I am trying to do the best I can with what I have in the circumstances I find myself.  The world is full of blamers but we don't all hold who we think is responsible for our downfalls as hostages, hoping that we are going to get ahead in life.  We pick ourselves up from out of the darkness we find ourselves in and try to make light of the situation as best we can.  There is enough war in the world as proof of everyone blaming each other for something or the other, we do not need it in the home. Those days of you trying to blame me for dropping ...

I am at a loss for words once again, even though there is so much I could talk about, but it would just be the same old tune with different lyrics.   So dear readers, without wasting any of your precious time, let me put my cyber-pen down for a while and have a conversation with me, myself and I as my personalities are at loggerheads with each other about what to do and how to feel.    This is really a confusing time and I don't want to confuse any of the people around me.  So if I disappear for a while, don't feel like you are being neglected, I am just trying to decide which foot to put forward first and both of them seem to be stuck.   Now don't you go too far - I might just show up when you least expect me.