Discovering your Emotional Roots - (The Big Bad Wolf and the Three Little Pigs)

Sometimes we have to really dig deep in order to find out why we behave in a certain way when faced with challenges or just simple kind gestures from others. 

The "walls" we build up around us to keep out affection, love, disappointment, failure and every other emotion that we perceive will hurt us are all just bricks that started out as straw. 

I never believed for one moment in my life that I was beautiful, intelligent, talented, even a genius for that matter until one morning in about 2011 I woke up and looked in the mirror and saw how beautiful I really am. 

I always thought that I was never good enough because:

I came from a "broken home";

I came from District Six;

I got blamed for my mother not being able to wear a wedding dress;

I was not as pretty as one of my sisters;

I was my father's favourite who was considered to be "no good";

The list goes on forever until I realised that the broken home was not of my doing.  I am very proud to say I lived and grew up in District Six and have very fond memories of it.  It was not my fault that my mother could not wear a wedding dress because she was pregnant with me. I am just as pretty as my sister as we were always looked at as being twins (considering we do share a birthday) and even more so, when I get asked if my daughter is my sister (who I think is very beautiful).  So how could think I was not beautiful when I kept getting told you look just like your sister or daughter.

These are the bricks of straw we use to build up the emotional walls around us.

Perhaps the story of the Big Bad Wolf and the Three Little Pigs is a story that could be looked at in another way.  As long as we continue to reinforce the walls of straw, then sticks and then bricks we will not be able to allow our hearts to be seeing or to allow anyone in.

How many bricks have you got in your wall and what are they made of?